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On your mark, get set… #Orange10!

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The Orange Conference begins today in Atlanta, GA.

Things that make this year different than last year:

  • I’m not living in someone’s basement for the week (seriously, though… Eric Echols is bomb-diggity for letting me crash at his place last year.  He’s a rockstar)
  • I’m not borrowing a local church’s “missionary car” to get around (instead, we’re renting a Dodge Charger.  Oh, and it’s GOLD.  Booyah)
  • I have a smart phone (This is a huge upgrade over last year.  I love my Droid… it’s going to change my entire conference experience)
  • I’m not traveling alone (Also a huge upgrade!  Our Student Ministries team, our church’s Senior Pastor and my Assistant Director all made the trip with me this year.  It might mean that this won’t be as adventurous as last year and that we have to stay in a hotel and rent a car.  But, having our team here ready to collaborate and network… priceless)

I’ll be trying to tackle a decently-sized chunk of people I want to meet in 2010 while I’m here.  If you’re at Orange and you know how to hook me up with Sue Miller or Phil Vischer… let me know.  I tracked Jim Wideman down myself (actually, he kind of helped me out there)… I need some help with the other two.

I’ll be updating throughout the week.

Wish us luck!

 
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Posted by on April 28, 2010 in Kidmin, Orange

 

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Orange Conference 2010 Breakouts

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I’ll be spending the next week in Atlanta, GA at The Orange Conference.

Joining me will be our church’s Student Ministries team, our Senior Pastor, and my friend and colleague Staci Travisano.

While at the conference, I’ll be checking out the following breakout sessions:

Pre-Conference Breakouts

BUILDING AN APPRENTICE MINDSET

The inevitable truth is that passions change, life happens and for various reasons people transition off of our team often leaving a gaping hole. This breakout will help you build a ‘replace yourself’ mentality within your ministry that will grow your volunteer and leadership base. Explore how to effectively hand off ministry, mobilize your volunteers and empower student leaders creating a healthy ministry environment able to endure change.

CLARIFYING A CLEAR AND SIMPLE VISION FOR YOUR MINISTRY

As a leader, you need to be able to communicate a clear and compelling vision so that the people that you lead will be able to know where the ministry is headed. We will look at how to discern the unique vision God has for your ministry, how to communicate with conviction, how to celebrate when it’s clear and how to evaluate and change course when it’s not effective.

CATCHING VOLUNTEERS UP TO SPEED

We all need more volunteers, but how do we get them up to speed quickly while maintaining quality, security and excitement? In this workshop, we’ll explore a plan for systematically helping a new team member come up to the speed of Orange. Resources will include best practices from Orange Leaders, sample Moodle courses, and bibliography.

Breakout Sessions A-D

FAMILY FIRST

Family First is a very popular & engaging idea – but how do we actually do it? In this session we will consider ten creative family first strategies – concepts that will add balance to the families in your congregation as well as those families that serve on your church staff. We will also introduce the idea of a “Family Dream Session” so you can pro-actively lead your family into a God honoring future!

LAUNCHING A FAMILY EXPERIENCE

Have you considered launching a family experience at your church but feel completely overwhelmed at the thought of all that’s involved? This breakout will give you practical and proven low budget steps to launch an engaging family experience that will capture the heart of families in your community, increase attendance, remove staff silos, increase giving, and create a strong, positive community presence for your church using an out-of-the-box innovative approach. You will learn techniques from building sets without spending a dime to marketing techniques that attract tons of unchurched families in your community that keep coming back for more.

DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS IN LEADERS’ CIRCLES

Every leader faces unhappy parents, dissatisfied volunteers, or tension with senior leaders that requires tough conversations. (Sometimes even all on the same day!) Each situation requires courage, wisdom, and prayer to handle it. None of us like conflict, but all of us can be equipped to handle these difficult conversations better. Join us to learn some practical tips and tactics that will enable you to face this tricky situations with confidence and poise.

ALIGNING PARENTS TO A VISION FOR FAMILY

So you’re creative, you have ideas, you’ve strategized every possible angle and your team is ready to work. What’s missing? You might be able to create the experience of a lifetime INSIDE your church building, but impact is happening OUTSIDE of your church building. Parents are a key missing ingredient to success in the changed lives of our student population. Want to know how to get them on your team? Start here.

I’ll try to gather my thoughts post-conference and share notes and other learnings here.

If you’re at Orange, feel free to connect with me on Twitter (anthony_prince) or Facebook (facebook.com/anthonyprince).  I’d love to catch up over coffee.

 
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Posted by on April 26, 2010 in Kidmin, Orange

 

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Missional Children’s Ministry Discussion

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I was recently asked by Glenn Woods (glenwoods.wordpress.com) to join in on a conversation about the missional church movement and the implications it has for children’s ministry.  This morning he posted his first thoughts:

Along with my colleagues Henry Zonio, Anthony Prince, and Shauna Morgan who will be posting today (April 25) on their respective blogs, I intend to introduce in this article the essence of my ministry philosophy specifically as it pertains to missional outreach to children and families. Along with that, I will point out the various ways this philosophy has expressed itself in my ministry up to this point, as well as plans for the near future.

Click HERE to read the rest of his post

A few years ago, I began hearing the term Missional Church more and more as I traveled to conferences and networked with other church leaders.  As I wrestled with what implications a missional mindset had for ministry in my current context, I began to find that not many people in the missional conversation had much to say about children’s ministry.

In order to understand some of what I had to wrestle through, we should first look at what it means to be missional…

What is Missional – A Short Answer

“Jesus told us to go into all the world and be his ambassadors, but many churches today have inadvertently changed the “go and be” command to a “come and see” appeal. We have grown attached to buildings, programs, staff and a wide variety of goods and services designed to attract and entertain people.

“Missional is a helpful term used to describe what happens when you and I replace the “come to us” invitations with a “go to them” life. A life where “the way of Jesus” informs and radically transforms our existence to one wholly focused on sacrificially living for him and others and where we adopt a missionary stance in relation to our culture. It speaks of the very nature of the Jesus follower.”

—Rick Meigs

At it’s core, children’s ministry typically exists in a “come to us” format.  In many churches, children’s ministry grew out of a need for the kids to have “something to do” while parents were in church and Bible studies.  So, how do you shift from a “come to us” to a “go to them” paradigm?  That’s the million dollar question in churches wrestling with what it means to become missional.

Our church’s children’s ministry program has a foot in both worlds.

We truly invest in creating an engaging environment for children and their families to come and hear about the Good News of Jesus Christ on our church campus.  We run large events that welcome visitors onto our campus and intentionally leverage those events to create and foster relationships between Christ followers and those not yet connected to a local church.

At the same time, we run multiple off-campus after school clubs in local elementary schools that do not push our church as the only next step to what happens during those clubs.  All told, over 300 children gather weekly on multiple campuses in the programs that our church funds and provides oversight for – yet, we do so with a very missional mindset.  I self censor myself as the main teaching voice on these campuses so that we do not push my church and our programs as the natural next step for every child in attendance.  Our goal is to place a small group leader in the life of every child in our programs so that the children in attendance have at least one person in their life loving them and caring for them in a way that Jesus would.  We’re proud of the fact that on our local public school campuses we pray with children, teach them stories straight from Scripture, show them God’s love for them in tangible and relevant ways, and do so with an end in mind that doesn’t directly feed our church’s attendance numbers.  At the end of each club, we encourage kids to get involved in a local church community… but, we try to not reveal which church is mine.  If a parent asks, I tell them.  Other than that, we let families decide their next step.

Missional ministries are risky.  As a church staff member, I recognize that my paycheck doesn’t come from people who aren’t attending my church.  However, I am a part of a church that realizes that Sunday mornings are a launching point for the ministry that happens weekly outside of our church’s walls.  We will always provide engaging experiences on our campus that meet the needs of families in our community.  At the same time, we know that Jesus calls us to take the Good News of salvation to the world… not simply place it in a box and invite people to come and see it.

 
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Posted by on April 25, 2010 in Kidmin

 

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Gone to Catalyst: Back Alley Dealings Await

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from the official Catalyst website:

What is Catalyst?

Catalyst: a person or thing that causes a reaction and precipitates change.

Catalyst is a unique leadership experience that inspires next generation leaders through engaging dialogue, powerful content, and awe-inspiring worship. Catalyst creates moments that leave a mark on each of us, a collective community, experience, and movement that continues to define a generation – The Next Generation – who will envision the endless possibilities of leading change in our world.

Leaders from all over the West coast and around the world will converge – a revolution of ideas where you’ll challenge the process and think unconventionally. Even more than a cutting-edge event, Catalyst is an experience that leaves you enlightened, rejuvenated, and ready to be a Catalyst in your own life and the lives of others. Join this movement of influencers passionate about impacting their communities, their churches, and their culture for Christ.

Catalyst West is truly an experience. Unconventional. Untypical. Unpredictable, and as unusual as the tomorrow we face. On April 21-23 you’ll experience three days designed to challenge leaders to be change agents in a culture that dictates change for the world. Join 3500 great minds who will envision the endless possibilities of giving more, doing more, and living more on purpose for the cause of Christ.

 
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Posted by on April 22, 2010 in Los Angeles

 

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Collaborating (kind of): Dick Gruber

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Dick Gruber: Families Serving Together

First Things First

This is no dig at Dick Gruber… but, if I have to read another chapter intro that rehashes Deuteronomy 6, I’m going to put the book down for a week.

I get the fact that each author was given a chapter to work with, and that many of us who are called to ministering to kids and families are currently wrestling with that text.  However, couldn’t there be some way that an intro to the book could talk about texts that inspire family ministry?  I’m just saying… I never thought I’d be sick of the Shema.  Yet, 8 chapters in, and I’m there.

Quick Take-Away

Dick looks like he’s done an amazing job of releasing families to serve in ministry together.  If families serving together is a new concept for you, Dick lays out multiple ways you might be able to apply this concept to your context.  However, as this chapter makes clear, you have to start with the things that people are already passionate about.  Dick didn’t go around creating program after program and forcing families to serve together.  Instead, he takes things that families are already excited about and infuses a family ministry approach to those volunteer opportunities and programs.

My take-away is going to www.dickgruber.com to download some free ideas on some of the large events he’s pulled off in the past.  You may want to check them out as well.

This post is 1 of many in a series.  I’m assuming that the contributing authors of Collaborate want to have a conversation with me.  You can read my open letter to them here.

 
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Posted by on April 21, 2010 in Book Review, Collaborate Book, Kidmin

 

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Collaborating (kind of): Carey Nieuwhof

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Carey Nieuwhof: The Change You Need to Embrace

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Carey Nieuwhof seems to be a pretty great guy.

Next week at the Orange Conference, he’s going to be explaining to Senior Pastors from across the country why they need to take on the mission of reaching families in their communities.  I’d imagine that anyone attending his breakout would have a foot up on everyone else in the room if they read this chapter.

I’m just saying.

Quick Take-Away

So, I’ve loved some chapters of this book, and I’ve wanted to scream at others… this chapter did a little bit of both for me.  It would be easy for me to miss the chance to explain why this chapter is awesome… so I’ll first speak to what spoke to me and our church’s current context.

Our church is a church that cares more about those who are not attending our church than those who are.  So, reasons #1 for why Carey embraced family ministry is one that I think would resonate with our staff: Family Ministry Might Be The Greatest Outreach Opportunity The Church Has Today.  That is huge.  Parents in our community aren’t staying awake at night, wondering what our senior pastor is going to be preaching on Sunday morning… they’re worrying about their kids.  The crazy thing is – I’m staying up at night worrying about their kids too.  I think we can leverage that.

Okay… the thing that drove me crazy…

Carey talks about different kinds of changes a Senior Pastor has to face in leadership.  He talks about how it’s important for someone in leadership to be able to overhaul entire systems for the hope of a better tomorrow.  Then, Carey shares his own story… a story in which he realized that a massive restructuring would have to happen in order for his church’s ministries to align.  Then, after realizing his system needed a huge overhaul, he left his denomination and started a new church.

If I’m being totally honest, this made me scream a little bit in my head.

I understand that someone’s story is someone’s story.  Carey can’t change the way in which God led him to embracing family ministry.  But, the last thing I want to do is have my Senior Pastor read this chapter and get some crazy idea about leaving our church to plant one with a clean slate.  I want to know that a church which thrived in the 70′s and 80′s can reinvent itself as a church that exists to serve and equip families in the year 2010.  If I pass this chapter on to our pastor, I may actually white-out these two sentences:

Ironically, two years later, in late 2007, a few of us left the denomination we were serving to start Connexus Community Church.  When we had a chance to plant a church for the first time, we built it around a family ministry model.

Seriously, I am a big fan of Carey.  I’m stoked for the way that he’s reaching uncommitted families in his community with the Gospel of Jesus.  And, if I seriously cut out those two sentences, then I’m going to pass this chapter on to our senior leadership team.

This post is 1 of many in a series.  I’m assuming that the contributing authors of Collaborate want to have a conversation with me.  You can read my open letter to them here.

 
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Posted by on April 20, 2010 in Book Review, Collaborate Book, Kidmin

 

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Collaborating (kind of): Brian Vander Ark

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Brian Vander Ark: Putting the Pieces Together

First Things First

Brian Vander Ark (no… not THAT Brian Vander Ark) is the Senior Pastor of Family Ministries at one of the few churches on my “places I need to visit” list.  Ada Bible Church continues to rock my world – the more I read and hear about the stuff they have going on, the more excited I am about the future of the church-at-large.  Brian has a TON to say in the few pages given to him in Collaborate and he doesn’t waste any time in laying out exactly how they minister to families at Ada.  What I appreciate most about Brian is his obvious humility.  He finishes his entry by recognizing that his church doesn’t have it all figured out and that their “4-E’s” (see below) are a strategy in progress.  That’s leadership.

Quick Take-Away

Can you look at the volunteers who serve at your church in children and student ministries and tell me their one-word job description?  Brian can – they wear them on their shirts.  That’s right, friends, Ada Bible Church has blown me away yet again… they can break each of their ministry team members’ primary role down to one work.  To top it all off – they all start with an “E”.

Here they are:

  • EMBRACE: Nursery/Preschool – “Embraced by God’s Love.”
  • EXPECT: Elementary – “Expecting God can be trusted.”
  • EXPERIENCE: Jr. High – “Experiencing connection with God and people.”
  • EXPRESS: Sr. High – “Expressing Faith and relationship throughout God’s world.”

I want to be able to do this in our ministries.  At this point, I would rather visit Ada, Michigan than Hawaii… just to see this strategy in action.  I’m sold.

This post is 1 of many in a series.  I’m assuming that the contributing authors of Collaborate want to have a conversation with me.  You can read my open letter to them here.

 

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Collaborating (kind of): Brad S. Tate

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Brad S. Tate: The Big Idea

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Yard Balls.

Need I say more?

Well, if you haven’t read the book… then, maybe you should.  If, for no other reason, then to figure out if your ministry is as useless as yard balls.

Quick Take-Away

Brad! You’re introducing an idea that so many of us have tried, but we’ve gotten worn out in the process.

The idea of having one Big Idea that everyone talks about on a Sunday at their own level with appropriate application is awesome.  The reality of trying to pull it off becomes tiring if it’s not owned at the top of the chain.  Basically, if your Senior Pastor is pushing this idea, you’re golden.  If the student/children/family pastor has to start the conversation, there’s a good chance you’ll be trying to move a mountain.

I want to avoid yard ball ministry.  I want to align what families are learning on a Sunday.  I’m a fan of the language used here – there’s a clear “win” and I could totally sell a “Big Idea” concept to a family I meet at a grocery store.  This is starting to feel like a rant.  I apologize.  But I LOVE this concept so much that I get flustered – many of us reading this chapter will never be in a place where we can make this a reality.  Our Senior Pastors set the pace and the vision.

Great food for thought.

This post is 1 of many in a series.  I’m assuming that the contributing authors of Collaborate want to have a conversation with me.  You can read my open letter to them here.

 
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Posted by on April 19, 2010 in Book Review, Collaborate Book, Kidmin

 

Collaborating (kind of): Brian Haynes

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Brian Haynes: Make a Shift in Your Ministry

First Things First

I loved Shift by Brian Haynes.  If I felt like parents on the West Coast has any name recognition with this guy, I’d be working the phone right now to come speak at a parenting conference.  If you haven’t given thought to the idea of “milestones” in your family ministry strategy, you need to scrap your gameplan and let Brian help you build from the ground up.

Brian basically sums up an entire book in 5 pages (well done, by the way).

The “milestones” Brian lays out for the church to consider celebrating in the life of a family are:

  • Birth of a Baby
  • Faith Commitment
  • Preparing for Adolescence
  • Commitment to Purity
  • Passage to Adulthood
  • High School Graduation
  • Life In Christ

Quick Take-Away

Brian’s ability to lay out a specific strategy for discipling families speaks my love language and resonates with my soul in a way that I can hardly put into words.

There is no “quick” take away from Brian’s thoughts… basically, you have to read the book.

What I will say is this – I appreciate Brian acknowledging that not every child or student will have parents who are engaged in their faith journey.  For the first formative years of my Christian life, my parents were completely absent.  Churches looking at family ministry need to keep in mind that we will have to be the primary faith influencer for some children and youth.  When parents aren’t involved, the church takes the lead.  Brian – thanks for keeping kids like me in mind.

This post is 1 of many in a series.  I’m assuming that the contributing authors of Collaborate want to have a conversation with me.  You can read my open letter to them here.

 
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Posted by on April 18, 2010 in Book Review, Collaborate Book, Kidmin

 

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Collaborating (kind of): Becky Arthur

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Becky Arthur: Family Connect

First Things First

Becky’s article gave us some tangible ways to actually connect with parents.  I love tangible take-aways.  Thanks, Becky!

Here they are:

  • Communicate
  • Discontinue the kids-only VBS
  • Dedicate Parents
  • Build a Backyard Bible Club
  • Include Parents
  • Organize Family Teaching
  • Mark Spiritual Growth

Quick Take-Away

I think Becky is making some pretty awesome suggestions… we just have to learn to read between the lines.  Our VBS model works, but we can absolutely lean into a strategy that includes and engages parents in the midst of it.  We won’t be launching backyard Bible clubs any time soon… but I have a friend who has an AMAZING idea for an event that encourages and equips families to take the love of Jesus into their neighborhoods.

(Tangent: this same friend has a wife who’s writing a book.  I’m convinced that this book would sell more copies if it featured a vampire.  You can slap a vampire on anything and it will sell.  In fact, I’m tagging this post with the word “Vampire” and I bet it gets twice as many hits as the rest of this series.  At least.)

This post is 1 of many in a series.  I’m assuming that the contributing authors of Collaborate want to have a conversation with me.  You can read my open letter to them here.

 
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Posted by on April 18, 2010 in Book Review, Collaborate Book, Kidmin

 

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